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Pam, you've brought up a very important issue: not only the issue of how to grieve and work through feelings of loss, but that we each do it differently, at a different pace and, most critical, men and women don't do it the same way.

I hope this is a helpful starting point for you. And I hope I've given a little insight into the fact that his behavior fits a male's style of coping. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or need you--in fact quite the opposite. But he can't do the processing and grieving the way we as women would. He may need to talk with another male first or at least with someone he's not afraid of losing.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to respond to this very painful situation for the two of you.

Deb

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Debbie Sims is a Certified Clinical Nurse Specialist in Adult Psychiatric Nursing, has a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She maintains a private practice in counseling but her devotion is to her position as Editor for Beyond Indigo an Internet web site for those who are grieving.

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